A New View on Closure: The Empowering Path of Self-Healing
People often say that closure is an important, if not necessary, step on the path to mental healing and peace. People have romanticized the idea for a long time that getting closure—that last talk, the last goodbye, or the clear understanding of why things happened the way they did—is necessary to move on from traumatic or painful events. This point of view may be comforting in theory, but it may not be the most useful or powerful for everyone.
Going against the norm
Most of what we know about closure comes from the idea that we need an outside event or acknowledgement to heal our scars and move on. This belief says that we are incomplete or forever stuck in our emotional turmoil if we don't have a certain moment of closure. But this view of closing might not only be limiting, it might also stop us from growing and being strong.
What would happen if we took a more realistic, and maybe even more powerful, view? We could focus on the idea of acceptance and the strength to move on without needing outside approval or a neatly wrapped-up answer instead of the never-ending search for closure. This way of thinking tells us to pay attention to our own thoughts and feelings, accepting that our experiences are real but not letting them decide our future.
Accepting your own power and choice
We recognize our own power and responsibility in the healing process when we move our attention from trying to find closure to working on acceptance and personal growth. This point of view frees us from relying on outside forces to bring us peace and lets us look within for strength and resolution. It's a journey of accepting what has happened, learning from it, and choosing to focus on our own growth and the chances for the future.
This idea doesn't take away from the value of closure for people who find it helpful. Instead, it shows another way for people who may not have that choice or find it insufficient for their healing. It gives people the power to let themselves heal and move on, even if someone else does something bad or says sorry. In a deep way, this understanding frees us and gives us full control over our emotional healing.
A Freeing Point of View
It can be very freeing to realize that healing is a very personal process and that peace is not a one-size-fits-all answer. It gives us a new way of looking at things that celebrates resilience, personal strength, and our power to make our own way to health. This method is a strong reminder that outward validation and resolutions can be helpful, but they are not necessary for mental recovery.
By accepting this point of view, we can take back control of our emotions and see that we are in charge of our path to peace, healing, and progress. Anyone can follow this road, and it supports their ability to deal with their feelings with courage and self-compassion, even if traditional closure isn't possible.
Though we are still learning about how the mind and heart work, let us stay open to other ways of healing and growing as people. In the end, the most important step on this path is the one that leads to peace and lets us keep going with strength and faith.
